Stress, fatigue, misunderstanding, criticism, EXPLOSION!! Poor decisions, unfair fight, isolation, regret, inability to forgive. I've seen too much of this lately. We must be patient with one another and not lay traps for our partners to become entangled. There is an abundance of suffering and we need not add to it. Be patient, and exercise some compassion.
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Tuesday, June 29, 2010
The Benefits of Happiness
There are many benefits to cultivating happiness in our life and in the lives of others. Optimistic people tend to interpret life’s challenges as a passing mo-ment that is controllable. In contrast, pessimists often believe that their troubles will always exist and are uncontrollable. Happy people are inclined to endure pain better and their positive emotions tend to counterbalance negative emotions. Happy people seem to forget bad events more readily and remember more good events than might have actually happened. Happy people tend to be more productive and miss work less often. Happy people spend less time alone and more time in social settings because, when we’re happy, we like other people more and want to share our happiness. When we are down, we become selfish, defensive and closed off.
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Monday, May 10, 2010
Practice Mindfulness to Cool Anger
To be successful in uprooting anger from your life,it is important to cultivate a mindset of living life in every moment. Too often, we are guided by our experiences of the past or old patterns of distorted thinking.There is great benefit to living life in the present, as if each moment is of value even if it contains sadness or fear. This owning of life, each moment and every experience, is called mindfulness.
In a world where we are bombarded daily with an unending stream of demands and information, the need for developing the discipline to create our own mental calm is a valuable skill. If our goal is to uproot anger and view the world from a more positive lens, the challenge is more difficult because we continually face a barrage of violent and heartbreaking images from multiple media sources.
Mindfulness is a core tenet of Buddhist meditation and has flourished for 2,500 years in both monastic and secular worlds. The practice of mindfulness and meditation has spread its roots throughout the world, as Eastern teachers have brought their knowledge and practices to the West, along with other practices such as yoga, tai chi and martial arts. Increasingly, the benefits and need for mindfulness meditation practices have given rise to greater research and openness toward their use. Because the benefits of mindfulness practice is rooted in self-inquiry and understanding, it is a technique for managing anger that stands on its own and is independent of any belief system or ideology.
Mindfulness can be best described as a particular way of paying attention. It is not just about how we pay attention to the world, but also about how we pay attention to ourselves. As we have discussed,a key component to uprooting anger is to pay attention to what we are thinking, how we are responding to the world, and how we are impacting those around us. Mindfulness can help all these areas and create a gap between our anger and the negativity that surrounds so much of our lives.
In a world where we are bombarded daily with an unending stream of demands and information, the need for developing the discipline to create our own mental calm is a valuable skill. If our goal is to uproot anger and view the world from a more positive lens, the challenge is more difficult because we continually face a barrage of violent and heartbreaking images from multiple media sources.
Mindfulness is a core tenet of Buddhist meditation and has flourished for 2,500 years in both monastic and secular worlds. The practice of mindfulness and meditation has spread its roots throughout the world, as Eastern teachers have brought their knowledge and practices to the West, along with other practices such as yoga, tai chi and martial arts. Increasingly, the benefits and need for mindfulness meditation practices have given rise to greater research and openness toward their use. Because the benefits of mindfulness practice is rooted in self-inquiry and understanding, it is a technique for managing anger that stands on its own and is independent of any belief system or ideology.
Mindfulness can be best described as a particular way of paying attention. It is not just about how we pay attention to the world, but also about how we pay attention to ourselves. As we have discussed,a key component to uprooting anger is to pay attention to what we are thinking, how we are responding to the world, and how we are impacting those around us. Mindfulness can help all these areas and create a gap between our anger and the negativity that surrounds so much of our lives.
Thursday, March 18, 2010
5 Fundamentals of Leadership
There are countless opinions on how to be an effective leader, but it's important to not forget the basics. Here are five rules for mastering the fundamentals of leadership:
1. Shape the future. Articulate where your company or division is going and be sure everyone around you understands the direction.
2. Make things happen. Once you know where you're headed, focus on the how. Again, be sure all of your people know what it takes to execute.
3. Engage today's talent. Make the most of your people; engage and inspire them to do their best.
4. Build tomorrow's talent. Find and build the talent you need for future success.
5. Invest in yourself. You can never be a perfect leader; find ways to continually build your skills and become better.
Today's Management Tip was adapted from "Decoding Leadership" by Norm Smallwood.
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1. Shape the future. Articulate where your company or division is going and be sure everyone around you understands the direction.
2. Make things happen. Once you know where you're headed, focus on the how. Again, be sure all of your people know what it takes to execute.
3. Engage today's talent. Make the most of your people; engage and inspire them to do their best.
4. Build tomorrow's talent. Find and build the talent you need for future success.
5. Invest in yourself. You can never be a perfect leader; find ways to continually build your skills and become better.
Today's Management Tip was adapted from "Decoding Leadership" by Norm Smallwood.
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Why so Negative?
Historically, the field of psychology has been consumed with a singular focus on mental illness. With almost an exclusive concentration on pathology, we have successfully developed quantifiable measures of conditions such as depression, anxiety, substance abuse, schizophrenia and personality disorders. There are theories to help us understand these disorders throughout a lifespan, and we have gained insight into the genetics, neurochemistry and psychological origins of mental illness. We have also developed pharmacological and therapeutic treatments for mental disorders that can greatly reduce the suffering experienced by those afflicted.
However, even as a young student of psychology, I always felt that something was missing. Why has this discipline been so focused on the negative? How did it venture onto a path where negative emotions are the norm and positive emotions are contrived or unoriginal?
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However, even as a young student of psychology, I always felt that something was missing. Why has this discipline been so focused on the negative? How did it venture onto a path where negative emotions are the norm and positive emotions are contrived or unoriginal?
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